i love this theory… it used to be housed by intellectualwhores.com and since has become very difficult to find (even though the domain is simple and self explanatory).
it’s the classic when harry met sally type of argument: women and men are pretty much incapable of being friends
read more at the real website: http://www.laddertheory.com or my mirror (in case it disappears) at http://www.benbernier.com/mirrors/laddertheory.com/